From people who contributed their experience of stillbirth

Just reading a few of the stories challenged my loneliness such that i chose to enter a dot story for ny baby.

Creating artwork in Miller’s memory and naming a dot after him means the world to me. It’s a way to honor his brief but impactful life, giving him a lasting place in the universe. Each time I look at the art or think of his dot, I feel closer to him, reminded that he’ll always be a part of my life. This tribute offers comfort and a sense of connection, allowing his legacy to shine on, even in his absence.

Sharing our stories and showing the world how many babies die to stillbirth and are loved and missed by their parents will help to get the message across that these babies matter and they are our children forever like any other [living] child.

When dealing with a loss of a child it’s tough to find anyone who can relate. I find it helps me to hear other people’s experiences. It makes me feel not alone.

It is a feeling of belonging. Thanks for producing this artwork to raise awareness. I am also researching stigma around stillbirth and have emailed you.

It is nice to feel part of a group and understand that we are not alone in this very bumpy journey.

I think it will help a great deal. In a sense of comfort talking with others who have gone through what you have, that can relate and feel an unbearable pain no parent should have to feel.

It's not often you get to talk about your baby, and any platform to do so is helpful to processing your loss be it recent or past.

Each comment, each like, each share gets bereaved parents talking. Our babies are all together on one perfect art work.

My mother has remembered her first baby for 60 years but not publicly. Stillbirth was taboo for many of these years.

I am always speaking out regarding the taboo.

There are so many things people don’t understand about baby loss unless they have been through it themselves and they are worried to ask in fear of upsetting the parents. I think most parents just want to talk about their baby, it recognizes their existence and that is invaluable. Just asking their name can mean the world but most people are too afraid to ask.

I think the more awareness the better, this may not make that final difference but it will count towards the overall knowledge and understanding of stillbirth.

I think people don’t understand stillbirth until they are in the situation. There I don’t think anything will alter the view on it. Sometimes it feels like a very lonely world and seeing this artwork with statements makes you realise you are not alone and it starts bringing people together.

Talking about my lost son helps me to let the world around me remember that I have three boys, not only the two who live with me. I will never forget, and sometimes I think people around me need a reminder of his existence as well.

As a bereaved mum, I need to talk, I need to express my emotions, I have lost a child, and the excuse of friends even family members of "I didn't ask you because I don't want to hurt you" hurt me. If you don't take care of me and my child who has gone, she was here, she has existed,... let me talk about my short memories with her.

It helps bring to light stories that are easily ignored because they are sad or depressing and people don't want to hear. Doing it in the form of art will hopefully open people's eyes of how common this is and that it needs to be talked about.

This artwork shows how common stillbirth is - to visually see so many dots each representing an individual and unique story. A sense that such a personal and devastating event is one shared by so many.

People generally think that talking about stillbirth upsets the parents but actually, it is the opposite. By seeing that we need the acknowledgement of our loss may help break this belief.

This will help to break the stigma of not talking about it.

From people who visited the Each Egg a World artwork

It happens to all sorts of people

I can relate to the comments that I read having experience stillbirth five years ago with my baby Jonas. It's important that we can all be more open about stillbirth and support those families who are going through the trauma. It's essential that more research is done to help avoid little lives being lost. Thank you for your work Adinda in helping stillbirth be talked about and understood.

I was surprised at how common stillbirth is and reflected that it isn’t seen or spoken about as part of many people’s lives. It made me think about health inequalities and how women’s health is more broadly still taboo.

My first understanding of baby loss was when I was a child and my mum cried. She was 39 weeks pregnant and was told her babies heart had stopped beating. I remember sobbing for her, for her baby and for the big brother who would never never meet his younger sibling. Again, when I was in my 20s a colleague went on maternity leave, but without a baby to cradle in her arms and again I sobbed for her. Neither time did I speak to the women about this loss, I only projected my feelings onto them. Flash forward to my first pregnancy loss (at 14 weeks) and I felt a pain I didn’t know it was possible to live through…suddenly I had an idea and I remembered those women and I remembered weeping for them, and I knew my pain was not the same. This artwork is beautiful and perfect and important. Parents left with a gaping space in their arms and hearts deserves place to express that. Well done.

Today, 10 years after the stillbirth of my dear niece, I am reminded of the importance of breaking the taboo on this subject. I experience much love for her, even though I never got to see her alive in this life. I hope someday all people experiencing stillbirth will be able to share this great grief freely, and that they feel understood and supported. Thank you, dear sister, for speaking up!

I once worked closely with three young women who were all expecting their first child at roughly the same time. Two gave birth to a healthy baby, a son and daughter respectively. The third suffered a stillbirth. It was very difficult to know what to say in the circumstances - the joy of two women and the devastation of the third. She left the company, moved away and eventually had a healthy child. Life moved on. The need to say anything seemed to have been overtaken by events. I think through this artwork and the testimonies of others I now understand what she was going through and have a better idea of what I could have/should have said.

Stillbirth is still taboo. A lonely place to be because our community turns away and people don't want to talk about the fact that babies sometimes die.

So many people going through the same heartache.

It was very moving and made me realise the importance of breaking the taboo in order that people can share their experiences. I hope that Each Egg a World raises awareness and helps to bring support to those that have experienced this terrible loss.

It's beautiful to read how much love people feel for their babies but so sad they had to lose them. It's also made me aware of how important it is to let people talk about their baby and to actively ask questions about them rather than ignore the issue.

This is painful to get an insight to but important for everyone to understand. Thank you to everyone that shared their stories.

The artist should be proud to have provided a forum for such powerful human experiences, which still functions aesthetically. It will be intriguing to see the transformation in the work as statements accrue, with more and more detail at greater zoom levels. The art object here has true potential social impact.

The human spirit in the face of such great pain and loss is in powerful evidence throughout the contributed statements. No matter the distance in time, the memory cannot be escaped, and the artwork can only help a wider understanding of the grief and love of bereaved parents in a society which still suffers over and over again.

Tenemos que dar visibilidad. - We have to give visibility.